Understand Your Son. Calm the Chaos. Build a Lifelong Connection.
Unlock the tools to decode his behavior, teach emotional resilience, and strengthen your bond in just a few minutes a day.
Do Any of These Sound Familiar?
Your son makes seeingly impulsive decisions and you find yourself repeatedly asking, "What were you thinking?!"
Your son explodes easily and emotional reactions sometimes seem out of proportion or unpredictable
Communication feels like a one-way street, with lots of shrugs and "I don't know" responses
You worry about your son's friendship dynamics and social development
Screen time battles have become a daily struggle, and you don't know what to do
You feel disconnected from your son, even though you love him deeply
If you nodded YES to any of these, you're in the right place.
If you’re exhausted from trying to understand your son’s behavior and frustrated by the lack of communication, you’re not alone. Parenting a boy can feel like navigating an emotional maze. But it doesn’t have to be this hard.
Join me in this course to discover the tools that will transform your relationship with your son.
YOU MAY FIND YOURSELF ASKING QUESTIONS LIKE:
“Is he just lazy?”
“Why won’t he listen to me?”
“What happened to my fun son?”
“Why is he SO moody?”
And of course, “What was he thinking?”
Some days it just seems like you can’t catch a break!
Power struggles over chores and homework
Lack of motivation over the simplest tasks
Endless hours of screen time and gaming
Battles with your son who ALWAYS know more than you
Comments from “well-meaning” adults who must be certain that they know how to raise your son better than you do
And what should be a simple conversation, turns into a battle that ends in exhaustion and frustration.
No wonder moms are stressed out!
With so much potential for meltdowns, frustration, and tears…
WHO WOULDN'T WANT TO JUST THROW IN THE TOWEL?
Some days, it feels like you're just walking on eggshells, doesn’t it?
You’re trying to connect, trying to help him, but it feels like you're constantly missing the mark—whether it's with his emotions, his behavior, or simply trying to understand what’s going on in his mind.
You start to feel overwhelmed and worry that you’ll never figure him out!
What if things didn’t have to feel so confusing?
After years of struggling to connect with my son and feeling like a complete failure, I finally discovered the tools that work, and now...
I'm on a mission to help other moms just like you!
You see, I know what you are feeling!
I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SHOES.
HI, I'M KARA!
I'm a mother of four unique sons, a school counselor, and the founder of The Joys of Boys.
I’ve been where you are—frustrated, unsure of how to help my son, and feeling disconnected.
I've walked this same walk. I remember wondering if I was "enough" as a mom to my boys.
I wondered how I could possibly help my sons gain confidence and find purpose in their lives if I wasn’t feeling confident as their mother.
I remember locking myself in the bathroom crying and feeling like a complete failure. Some days were SO hard. I tried EVERYTHING and was at my wits end!
BUT I DIDN'T GIVE UP.
Determined not to wave the white flag and to take care of the relationship I have with my sons…
I searched for knowledge on how our boys' brains work and what makes them tick through parenting books, podcasts and courses.
I realized that if I truly wanted to help parents understand how their boys think, I needed to dig much, much deeper…
So in the middle of a worldwide pandemic, I went back to school (Crazy, right?).
I earned Masters degrees in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and School Counseling, fueled by the fact that my focus as a counselor would be to help boys find and live up to their potential.
AND I FINALLY CRACKED THE CODE.
I found simple strategies that helped my sons open up, express themselves clearly, and manage their emotions with confidence. No more guessing—just real progress as he grows into the strong, self-assured young man I know he can be.
All of this work helped me understand that:
BOYS DON'T NEED TO BE FIXED
...they need to be understood.
IF WE WANT TO UNDERSTAND OUR BOYS...
...we need to first understand their brain development and how it differs from girls (and especially from their moms!)
TO CONNECT WITH OUR SONS...
...we need to dig deep and look at the thoughts, feelings and unfulfilled needs that are driving his behaviors.
With the right tools, raising a boy doesn’t have to be overwhelming or complicated!
Gaining this knowledge has transformed how I interact with my sons, and I can honestly say that I absolutely enjoy raising boys!
And I want to share those tools with you!
imagine your son...
Expressing himself more clearly, so you don’t feel like you are speaking different languages (Bruh!😅)
Handling his emotions with more control, instead of shutting down or lashing out when things don’t go his way.
Developing strong friendships and navigating social challenges with confidence, instead of feeling isolated or unsure of how to connect.
Learning to balance screen time and physical activity in a way that nurtures his mind and body, so he feels mentally and emotionally healthier
Building the kind of self-confidence that helps him understand who he is and feel proud of his unique qualities, without constantly seeking validation from others.
Imagine being able to understand what is going through your son’s mind that is driving his behavior—and knowing exactly how to guide him through it, bringing out the best in him.
I know you dream of seeing him grow into a strong, capable young man who understands himself, communicates well, manages his emotions, and builds meaningful relationships.
I want that for him, too. That’s why I’m here to help you guide him toward a future where he can thrive—emotionally, socially, and mentally.
Remember, our boys don’t need to be “fixed,” they need to be understood.
Breathe a sigh of relief knowing you have the tools to guide your son’s behavior, emotional growth, and self-confidence by understanding how his brain works with our new course:
INTRODUCING...
WHAT WAS HE THINKING?
A comprehensive, evidence-based course designed specifically for mothers of boys who want to understand their sons on a deeper level and build more meaningful connections that last.
Understand your son’s brain development and how it impacts his behavior, thoughts, and emotions.
Recognize and embrace the unique way boys think and address common misconceptions and stereotypes.
Build emotional resilience and intelligence by equipping him with the tools to manage his emotions and navigate challenges like a pro.
Learn how boys’ thoughts influence their actions and how to guide them in making better decisions.
Master communication with your son using verbal and non-verbal strategies, including the 9 most important minutes of the day.
Decode His Behavior and understand the underlying causes of his actions and how to respond effectively—no more guessing or frustration
Support his social growth by helping him build meaningful friendships and develop healthy social skills.
Promote overall well-being by balancing screen time with physical activity and encouraging habits that nurture both mind and body.
Celebrate his uniqueness and guide him in building a strong, positive self-identity while fostering independence.
Strengthen Your Bond and build a deeper, more meaningful connection through communication and understanding.
what's included:
Master Your Son’s Mind – Unlock the Power of His Unique Brain Development
We dive into the amazing world of boys' brains and how they grow.
Decode the secrets of his brain and its difference from girls'.
Recognize and embrace the uniqueness of boys' cognitive development
Break through the common myths and stereotypes that can hold you back from truly understanding your son.
This module will transform your approach to parenting, making every interaction more effective and meaningful.
Unlock His Emotional World – Guide Him to Emotional Resilience
Understand and support your son’s emotional growth and well-being.
Understand what’s really going on beneath your son’s emotions
Teach him to express feelings in ways that work for him
Shift negative thinking into more positive actions
Help him bounce back from challenges with confidence
You’ll walk away with simple tools to strengthen your son’s emotional resilience—and your connection with him.
Crack the Code – Communicate in a Way Your Son Actually Hears
Effective communication is key to building strong parent-child relationships.
Understand how boys really communicate—through words and behavior
Read between the lines by picking up non-verbal cues and unspoken needs
Listen in a way that builds trust using simple yet powerful connection strategies
Keep conversations going—even when your son shuts down or pulls away
You’ll leave this module with a go-to communication plan that works in real life—even during meltdowns, shutdowns, or conflict.
Transform Challenging Behavior – From Chaos to Connection
Understand typical boy behavior to help you address challenges and encourage growth.
Understand the real reasons behind your son’s behavior—so you can respond with confidence, not confusion
Spot what’s normal in boy development and stop stressing over every outburst
Tackle tough moments calmly with strategies that actually work in the heat of the moment
Create a custom behavior plan with your son that brings out his best (without power struggles)
By the end, you’ll have a clear path to turn frustrating behaviors into moments of growth and connection.
Guiding Boys Through Friendships That Last
Help your son build strong friendships and essential social skills.
Understand how boys build real connection—and why friendships often look different than you expect
Spot social struggles early—and help your son handle peer pressure, exclusion, or conflict with confidence
Teach skills that stick—like empathy, teamwork, and healthy boundaries without forcing awkward conversations
Build his social confidence so he can make friends, keep them, and thrive in group settings
This module gives you a game plan to help your son feel seen, accepted, and supported—wherever he goes.
Fuel His Body, Strengthen His Mind – Raising a Thriving, Balanced Boy
Promoting an active and healthy lifestyle is important for boys' overall well-being.
Boost his mental health through movement—and understand why physical activity is key to emotional regulation
Break the screen-time cycle
with simple, doable routines that get your son moving and engaged
Build a foundation of health
through realistic sleep, nutrition, and wellness habits that actually stick
Create a family wellness plan
that supports long-term energy, focus, and confidence
You’ll walk away with tools to help your son thrive from the inside out
Freedom to soar– Build Confidence, Identity, and Independence
Celebrate what makes him one-of-a-kind so he grows up proud of who he is
Help him build a strong self-identity rooted in confidence, character, and purpose
Encourage healthy independence
without power struggles or pulling away
Support his growth into a motivated, self-driven young man who knows his strengths and owns his path
This module gives you the tools to raise a boy who believes in himself—and has the courage to chase big dreams.
check out these amazing bonuses!
BONUS #1
boys and their battles
From mental health to peer pressure, boys face a myriad of challenges as they navigate adolescence.
Resource Guide with practical strategies, books, organizations and other resources that give parents the tools to address challenges such as bullying, Body Image, Online Safety and substance use with practical strategies to keep boys on the right track.
BONUS #2
school days - boys' edition
Education plays a crucial role in boys' development, and in this module, we focus on creating an environment where boys can thrive academically.
Tackle challenges in school head-on and create an environment where your son can thrive academically.
Learn how to be a strong advocate for your son's education, ensuring he gets the support he needs to succeed.
BONUS #3
BOYS AND ELECTRONICS MASTERCLASS
How to help your son gain a healthy relationship with electronics
This Electronics Masterclass helps families set healthy boundaries around screen time and protect kids from online dangers. You’ll learn how to create a Family Digital Media Plan, recognize signs of screen addiction, and use a family electronics contract to guide safe, balanced tech use.
It also includes tools for handling dangerous apps, cyberbullying, and exposure to pornography—giving you the confidence to raise emotionally healthy, digitally responsible kids.
BONUS #4
Gratitude Journal for Boys PDF
Printable journal to help your son recognize and be grateful for simple experiences each day where he will gain:
A daily habit of gratitude– He’ll start noticing and appreciating the good in his life, helping him focus on the positive.
Emotional awareness– He’ll learn to recognize and name his feelings in a simple, boy-friendly way.
Confidence and self-worth– Reflecting on what he’s proud of and what he loves about himself builds self-esteem.
Resilience through challenges– He’ll learn to find the good even on hard days and grow from those experiences.
BONUS #5
12 Months of Mother and son Date Ideas
How to help your son gain a healthy relationship with electronics
The 12 Months of the Best Mother and Son Date Ideas bundle is an 80+ page eBook offering a year's worth of themed activities designed to strengthen the mother-son bond. Each month presents a unique theme with easy, inexpensive activities, including crafts, outdoor games, and fun recipes. The bundle also features printable pages for capturing memories, providing a meaningful way to connect with your son throughout the year.
Ready for a new era of harmony in your family and to leave the uncertainty and overwhelm behind?
Join us on this journey and unlock the secrets to understanding and empowering your son!
what Moms are saying about
"what was he thinking?":
Kara’s “connect before you correct” resonated with me. Finding out the need that is driving their behavior helps me be more of the parent I want to be.
What Was He Thinking?
A comprehensive, evidence-based course designed specifically for mothers of boys who want to understand their sons on a deeper level and build more meaningful connections that last.
What Was He Thinking Video Lessons (7 Modules, 21 Lessons, over 5 hours of training). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .($600)
BONUS 1: WHAT WAS HE THINKING WORKBOOK (Over 100 pages of ways to implement the things you learn) . . . .($200)
BONUS 2: BOYS AND THEIR BATTLES: arming Boys to Conquer Life's Challenges Resource Guide . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .($100)
BONUS 3: SCHOOL DAYS: Unlocking Your Son's Academic Success Masterclass . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($150)
BONUS 4: BOYS AND ELECTRONICS MASTERCLASS: how to help your son gain a healthy relationship with electronics
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($150)
BONUS 5: GRATITUDE JOURNAL FOR BOYS PDF: printable Journal to help your son recognize and be grateful for simple experiences each day . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($50)
BONUS 6: 12 MONTHS OF MOTHER AND SON DATE IDEAS: A year-long collection of fun, themed mother-son date ideas designed to build connection and create lasting memories.
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($50)
BONUS 7: tRANSCRIPTS AND RECORDINGS . . . . . . . . . . . .($150)
Lifetime Access To All Material . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (PRICELESS!)
Total Value = ($1400)
REGULAR PRICE: $597
oVER 75% off discount!
100% happiness guaranteed
If you take this course, implement it with your son and don’t have positive results, you deserve your money back.
Here's the deal. I'm absolutely confident that this program will transform the way you parent your son and help you find peace knowing you are giving your son the tools he needs to reach his potential. .
So, if at any time during your first 14 days you feel like the course isn't right for you – for any reason at all – simply let my team know and we'll happily refund 100% of your investment, no questions asked. It's our total happiness guarantee.
The Truth About Boys That No One Tells You
Boys aren't just "simpler" versions of girls.
Their brains develop differently, they process emotions differently, and they communicate differently.
When we try to parent our sons using a one-size-fits-all approach, we miss the opportunity to connect with them in ways that honor their unique developmental needs.
The good news?
Once you understand what's happening inside your son's mind, his behavior begins to make sense. And when his behavior makes sense, you can respond with confidence instead of confusion.
stop worrying if you are doing things "right"
Learn to acknowledge that you are the PERFECT mother to raise your son into the best man possible.
Confidence in parenting comes when we can learn to see OUR strengths and trust our instincts.
understand the needs your son has that drive his behaviors
Every behavior can be explained by one of three basic needs that isn't being met.
When you learn to dig deeper to find the why behind behaviors, you will be able to approach situations with calmness and compassion.
LEARN TO SEE YOUR SON AS A UNIQUE INDIVIDUAL
Have you ever stopped to take a minute and really SEE your son?
When you stop and see your son as a whole person, you no longer feel the need to "fix" or change him. You learn to bring out the strengths that are already within him.
stop worrying if you are doing things "right"
Learn to acknowledge that you are the PERFECT mother to raise your son into the best man possible.
Confidence in parenting comes when we can learn to see OUR strengths and trust our instincts.
How the Course Works
Self-Paced Learning: Progress through the material on your own schedule, implementing new insights as you go
Practical Exercises: Apply what you're learning with actionable strategies you can implement immediately
Expert Guidance: Benefit from Kara's professional expertise as both a mental health counselor and a school counselor
What Makes This Course Different?
There are plenty of parenting books and courses out there.
Here's why "What Was He Thinking?" stands apart:
Boy-Specific Focus: This isn't general parenting advice—it's specifically tailored to the unique needs and development of boys
Evidence-Based Approach: Combines the latest research on boys' development with practical, real-world strategies
Dual Expertise: Created by a professional who understands both the clinical aspects of child development and the day-to-day realities of school environments
Balanced Perspective: Celebrates boys' strengths while honestly addressing the challenges
what OTHER Moms are saying:
I’m mum to 3 boys - 7yo, 4yo & 2.5yo, dog (also a boy) & hubby! I grew up as the eldest of 5 girls so now being a parent to all boys has certainly been a new adventure that’s challengingly, frustrating but so rewarding! Kara's message really resonated with me as I’m totally having a difficult time at the moment with getting my sons to listen, huge emotions from all of them!
I really found this to be informative and well organized. I wish more moms would take a workshop like this and truly understand how to get their boys to thrive being exactly who they are.
To see their son as an awesome unique human who needs help navigating big emotions and just life in general. Because our sons are already awesome and perfect the way they are and do not need to be “fixed”. They need to be understood.
~ STEPHANIE CUNNINGHAM, MOM OF 3 SONS
THINGS DON'T HAVE TO BE SO HARD
This course will help you:
Understand how your son’s mind works
Decode the reasons behind his behaviors
Connect through better communication
Teach your son to manage emotions and build resilience.
Encourage confidence and independence
Celebrate your son's unique strengths
Your home will become a place of understanding and growth.
You’ll gain the tools to guide your son through emotional challenges, help him manage his behavior, and support his development into a confident, self-assured young man.
What Was He Thinking?
A comprehensive, evidence-based course designed specifically for mothers of boys who want to understand their sons on a deeper level and build more meaningful connections that last.
What Was He Thinking Video Lessons (7 Modules, 21 Lessons, over 5 hours of training). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .($600)
BONUS 1: WHAT WAS HE THINKING WORKBOOK (Over 100 pages of ways to implement the things you learn) . . . .($200)
BONUS 2: BOYS AND THEIR BATTLES: arming Boys to Conquer Life's Challenges Resource Guide . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .($100)
BONUS 3: SCHOOL DAYS: Unlocking Your Son's Academic Success Masterclass . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($150)
BONUS 4: BOYS AND ELECTRONICS MASTERCLASS: how to help your son gain a healthy relationship with electronics
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($150)
BONUS 5: GRATITUDE JOURNAL FOR BOYS PDF: printable Journal to help your son recognize and be grateful for simple experiences each day . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($50)
BONUS 6: 12 MONTHS OF MOTHER AND SON DATE IDEAS:
A year-long collection of fun, themed mother-son date ideas designed to build connection and create lasting memories.
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($50)
BONUS 7: tRANSCRIPTS AND RECORDINGS . . . . . . . . . . . .($150)
Lifetime Access To All Material . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (PRICELESS!)
Total Value = ($1400)
rEGULAR PRICE: $597
oVER 75% off discount!
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:
Who is this course designed for?
This course is designed for parents, caregivers, educators, and anyone involved in the upbringing of boys. Whether you have sons of your own, work with boys in a professional capacity, or simply want to gain a deeper understanding of the male experience, this course is for you
Who is this course NOT for?
Anyone who isn’t committed and ready to guide their sons to the best version of themselves and create harmonious relationships with them; People who are looking for “instant” results without going through the whole course and doing what needs to be done.
What will I learn from this course?
The "What Was He Thinking" course covers a wide range of topics related to understanding and supporting boys' development. You will learn about the neurological and psychological aspects of the male brain, strategies for navigating emotions and communication, addressing common misconceptions and stereotypes, promoting positive behaviors, and much more.
How is the course structured?
The course is divided into modules, each focusing on a specific aspect of boys' development. Each module contains video lessons, downloadable resources and practical exercises to enhance your learning experience.
How long do I have access to the course?
You'll have lifetime access to all course materials, including any future updates.
Can I access the course content at my own pace?
Yes, you can access the course content at your own pace. Once you enroll, you will have unlimited lifetime access to all course materials, allowing you to revisit the content whenever you like.
How much time will this course require?
Each module takes approximately 1-2 hours to complete, including the practical exercises. Since the course is self-paced, you can spread this out over weeks or months according to your schedule.
What if the course doesn't work for my family?
We offer a 14-day money-back guarantee. If you complete the first two modules and don't find the content valuable, simply email us for a full refund.
How do I enroll in the course?
To enroll in the "What Was He Thinking" course, simply fill out the information below and click the "Complete Order" button. Once enrolled, you will gain immediate access to all course materials.
What if I have more questions?
Contact me at [email protected] and I will be happy to answer any questions that you have.
here's the truth... our boys need us!
They need us to show up for them.
They need us to guide them through the chaotic world we live in.
And most importantly, they need us to love and support them just the way they are without trying to "fix" or change them.
I would love to be your guide as you learn to bring out the best in your son and learn to communicate and connect with him with compassion and understanding.
What Was He Thinking?
A comprehensive, evidence-based course designed specifically for mothers of boys who want to understand their sons on a deeper level and build more meaningful connections that last.
What Was He Thinking Video Lessons (7 Modules, 21 Lessons, over 5 hours of training). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($600)
BONUS 1: WHAT WAS HE THINKING WORKBOOK (Over 100 pages of ways to implement the things you learn) . . .($200)
BONUS 2: BOYS AND THEIR BATTLES: arming Boys to Conquer Life's Challenges Resource Guide . . . . . . . . . . . .($100)
BONUS 3: SCHOOL DAYS: Unlocking Your Son's Academic Success Masterclass . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($150)
BONUS 4: BOYS AND ELECTRONICS MASTERCLASS: how to help your son gain a healthy relationship with electronics. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($150)
BONUS 5: GRATITUDE JOURNAL FOR BOYS PDF: printable Journal to help your son recognize and be grateful for simple experiences each day . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($50)
BONUS 6: 12 MONTHS OF MOTHER AND SON DATE IDEAS:
A year-long collection of fun, themed mother-son date ideas designed to build connection and create lasting memories.
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ($50)
BONUS 7: tRANSCRIPTS AND RECORDINGS . . . . . . . . .($150)
Lifetime Access To All Material . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (PRICELESS!)
Total Value = ($1400)
REGULAR PRICE: $597
oVER 75% off discount!
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